I am the Queen of save a buck and the environment, so when I discovered menstrual cups I just had to try it. Save money on tampons? Save the environment? No risk of toxic shock? *insert take my money meme*
The novelty of the product quickly ‘disapparated’ when I found out how it is inserted. I am one of the clumsiest people you will find! Learning that the stem does not hang out the vagina for easy removal and having to use your pelvic muscles to insert and eject the cup frightened the life out of me. How was I…me…going to figure out how to push this thing in whilst having to relax AND use my pelvic muscles??? The fright was enough to deter me for over a year. Obviously I came around eventually or else we wont have this blog.
During my monthly budget write-up, I started thinking of ways I can cut expenses and the idea popped back into my head. I called my trusty friend who sold me the idea 2 years ago to get a full break down on the experiences of this cup. She ensured me that I will eventually get the hang of inserting it……..she forgot to mention how long eventually was -_-
This blog comes 6 months after buying Madam Pixie Cup. Choosing a cup was a feat of its own. Do I choose the popular Diva Cup, the Ruby Cup, the Pixie Cup or a cheaper no brand option? Being an avid researcher, I googled the reviews of each settling on the Pixie Cup because of its price; the ‘it’s for Beginners’ claim; and the longer stem (because we know I was scared shitless of taking it out). I ordered it on Amazon and anxiously awaited the coming of Aunty Flo aka my period.
Standing in a semi squat position, I first tried the U-shaped fold. Oh Universe! I would love and hate to have sex with me because that was a fight to insert! I gave up and tried the Push Down fold. We had a bit more luck as it glided in, but then I had to figure out how to get it open. The instructions I read said insert till you hear it pop out, I never heard said ‘pop out’. I continued pushing the cup up in hopes that it opened. I also read somewhere to feel around the cup to make sure it was open at the brim. UMMMM…my fingers couldn’t fit all the way there, so I left it. I think it is obvious to say that I leaked. The next attempt? Leaked! And every time I leaked I gave up and used a tampon. This happened for the past 5 months. I probably succeeded all of three times, but I never fully gave up.
So here we are, sixth period since I bought Ms. Pixie Cup and I think I have finally figured it out. I watched one specific vlog tutorial and gained success. To be honest I had no choice but to figure it out as I was on the heaviest day of my period and my stash of tampons ran dry. The vlogger said to insert in the Pull Down fold till the bump in the fold is just past your vagina opening. Then using your fingers push on the bump to open the cup out. Use your pelvic muscles and your fingers to push the cup up to your desired place. Again, using a finger feel that the brim of the cup opens out to the walls of your cervix. Don’t get me wrong, I had to insert it approximately 4 times to get it but ultimately I got it right.
Removing the cup is easy peasy. You simply feel for the stem and pull it out. Please do this over the toilet bowl incase you drop the cup or it is overflowing with blood. I tend to have a bottle of water handy to wash out the cup as my mother forbade me from washing it in the face basin or bathroom. I read that the silicone prevents bacteria so there is no need for soap which can irritate your insides. You do not want that! I try to soak it in the boiling water once a month to give it good clean.
I know you are probably wondering, ‘How the hell do I empty it in public?’ The best part of using the cup is that you can leave it in for up to 12 hours!!! This basically solves that issue because I mean who stays out of their house for over 12 hours, especially on your period. In the unfortunate event that you need to empty the cup, keep a bottle of water handy. I have seen people say use wipes but the image of wiping blood and disposing the wipes disgust me.
Finally, things that I noticed along this journey:
- If you have a tilted cervix like myself, squat with one foot on the tub ledge and sink into the squat in the direction of the tilt
- Be careful with inserting your fingers to get a feel of the cup inside. I sit now with a left bruised wall.
- Yes it may feel as though your finger cannot fit to get a feel, push it in anyways. It will open up for you.
- Wetting the cup before insertion gives it some lubrication. I read somewhere to put olive oil on the brim but I personally do not like the idea of oil up in my cooch.
- Do some squats after insertion to ensure it lodges properly.
- Prepare to be amazed when your blood has collected. The viscosity of the blood is not seen when using a pad or tampon. Imagine a thick gel like blob.
- Wear Always long or extra long panty liners just incase! They give you enough protection from leaks without the bulky feel of a pad.
I urge every female to try menstrual cups. Let us save money, save the environment from non-reusable products, save yourself from toxic shock and save your crotch from bulkiness!!!!!